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Desire · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 587 Location: AK

You can't chose when you'll die. I know a lot of women in their late 80s who are still going storng, but then I've known too many mothers who've died in their 20s and 30s. The 60 years old is more likely to have a solid plan for her child if she does die then younger women will. Besides the fact that it'll have 3 (i think it was 3) grown siblings to help care for it.

*shrugs*

In any case, I wasn't replying on this woman's case specifically. That's why i said I hadn't read the article. I was more replying to the replies the article got.
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Desire · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 587 Location: AK

Natashabi · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 390 Location: Tejas

Sixty-two is an unnaturally LATE time to be having a baby. The average age for a woman to experience menopause is 51, although it is getting later.

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On average, menopause, also known as the "change of life", occurs by the age of 51 and can be confirmed by 12 following months without menstruation.

This woman had to do a lot to even get pregnant.

No one is saying that a later in life pregnancy should be terminated, especially not if it's a NATURAL pregnancy. This, was not natural at all. That ten years makes a huge difference. She may well be fit enough to be a parent and yes, her older kids may be able to take care of their younger half sibling but they shouldn't have to.

I don't think that young "selfish" women should be having kids. I think that a person should be truly ready for everything that having a child entails before they have one. I also think that this couple was being a bit selfish as well, playing god so they can have a child. I have nothing against couples having fertility treatments when they are of a childbearing age, but this woman is over a decade out of it.

Edit: put a paragraph break in the wrong place.

Agamemnon · Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 11:13 am Post subject:

OriginalCrazyone · Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 12:42 pm Post subject:

Not the only reason, but one of the reasons I broke up with my ex and am now with the soon to be mother of my child is related to this issue... looking at my family's health record, the average male in my family doesn't make it much past 65... in my case, it would be cruel to bring a child into this world past 40, and that is pushing it, because I wouldn't want to take away from my children having a full life because they have to take care of me in their teen years as much as I would be taking care ofthem, ifnot moreso because of failing health... I lost alot of my childhood, being an only child of a single parent who had to take care of my grandmother because mom had to work 3 jobs at times to support us... I don't say I regret anything from my childhood, and yes, there was alot of love in the home and my mom and my grandmother were both caring people who took care of me, but there were sacrifices I had to make due to the health of my grandmother and the fact that mom had to struggle to make ends meet... I would not want my children to have to make the same sacrifices in their childhood, so I made the decision long ago that I will not have any children past the age of 35... I am 28 now and getting ready to be a father for the first time, an exciting and scary prospect. I look forward to being there, involved in my childrens lives... I want to be healthy enough to play catch with my children, to be there as a father, and be involved in their lives... to be the scoutmaster if they join scouts and there isn't a troop around, or to volunteer with the troop if there is a good one established... to volunteer as an assistant coach for little league if there is one needed.... to provide for them the things I never had growing up without a father in my life... I don't want to go watch their sports by having to have them push me out there in a wheelchair because of failing health...

if this woman is healthy, I pray she keeps her health for the sake of the child.... but knowing my family health hystory, but for myself, I feel it would be irresponsible to bring a child into this world at a late age...

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Sam · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 11144

There was not a single sentence in that post that was not ended with an ellipsis. You mentioned that the issue relating to your ex is 'related' to this one, but didn't talk about what that actually was. Did she not want you to have children until you were over 35, or what?

Desire · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 587 Location: AK

Maybe I took some of the replies the wrong way. It's a lot easier to set me off lately. Hormones and such, I suppose. :\

It did honestly seem to me as if people were saying it would be better not to be born to older parents at all then to have older parents though. And I still say that as long as you have parents who love you and are there for you that you are ahead of things. We all have to make sacrifices in one way or another growing up. Having to do without sufficient love has to be by far the worst and most damaging sacrifice a child can face.
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Agamemnon · Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 1:36 pm Post subject:

OriginalCrazyone · Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 1:37 pm Post subject:

Lasairfiona · Posted: Tue Jul 11, 2006 3:59 pm Post subject:

No, if it is a natural pregnancy there is no need to terminate it but I do think that it was selfish for a person who wants kids that late in life to go through fertility treatments. It presents a lot of potential problems for the kid since the risk of birth defects goes way up. If the coupld really thought they could give a kid a good home, why not adopt? I hope that they live long enough to give the kid a full life but even healthy older parents are still much more fragile than average parents.
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Agamemnon · Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 5:56 am Post subject:

Uncle Taylorbell · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 3191 Location: Northern England

I know, I know ... I was just teasin', you blummin' flamin' gallah.

Agamemnon · Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 6:23 am Post subject:

Oh, Unca, don't be like that! Show me the trick again where part of your finger disappears.
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Desire · Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 587 Location: AK

hahaha

Im so hormonal anymore, I think Graeme's starting to ovulate just from being around me.

PS But don't tell him, it's my secret plan for us to get rich by him being the first man to get pregnant. Plus, maybe I'll get my daughter. ;p
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